| 7 Cities Socialytes A Hampton Roads Virginia based eCommunity |
| Frequently asked Questions |
| This seems a bit lengthy, but if you are anything like me....when I first became curious about the lifestyle, I was trying to find as much information as I could....soaking it up like a sponge! I have tried to include as much as I could so you dont have to research hundreds of sites! Please take your time to read and enjoy! How do you get an invitation to a party? All parties are by invitation only! You must first meet with us, the group owners at an offline prior to getting on our guest list. Our parties are held in discreet locations and not open to the public. To obtain a membership in this wonderful eCommunity, you are also required to meet with us during one of our weekly or biweekly MeetnGreets; we like to see our members and know that they are as serious about their membership as we are about our group. It is not a game, as our slogan says! Please go to our Membership page and complete the form and we will send you details on where the next MnG will be held. If you are unable to make the next MnG, no problem....we meet quite frequently and are sure you will be available during one of the times. Just let us know when you are available to meet. The maximum response time from us regarding the next steps is generally 24 hours after we have received this information from you. We are a very active and social group, and not just about “Adult Parties”. A gathering could be as simple as meeting us for drinks at a local restaurant/bar for Happy Hour, attending a movie together, weekend trips, or whatever it may be. We are very normal people, really! How do you screen your prospective members? All prospective members are invited to join 7CS Phase One group and will remain a part of that community until they have completed the requirements to join the "Official 7CS Group". These members are isolated from our members, pictures, messages, etc. until they have completed all of the necessary and mandatory requirements to participate. Is it really worth it? Well once you are on the other side, you will appreciate all of the steps we take to secure and protect our members. What is 7 Cities Socialytes about? 7CS is a Hampton Roads based community of like-minded, sexy individuals who come together to explore their fantasies in no pressure, discreet, relaxed, and safe environment. This list would include, but is not limited to, the following: • Swingers • Voyeurs • Exhibitionists • Multiples (3somes, 4somes and more-somes) I am interested but I know my significant other isn't! Don't be so quick to make that decision for them! Often times, spouses/mates feel that they have to hide or deceive their mates. We do not encourage or support cheating! Just ask, you may be surprised at the answer you get! Our environment is very relaxed! You will absolutely NOT be walking into an orgy! Everything we do, is done with taste, style, and class. Our goal is to keep the image of this group clean! Yes, it may be against some individuals moral values, but trust me...those that are judging have never been to a 7CS event and are only judging based on what they think and NOT what they know! Anyone who hangs out with us for just one MeetnGreet wants to be a part of this group! We know how to have fun, and yes.....with our clothes on! Does race matter? NO. Although 7CS is geared toward people of color, we welcome with open arms any ethnicity with a positive open mind and vibrant spirit. Does genital size matter? Not to us; however, we can't speak for all our members. Everyone has their own preferences. However, if you are sporting 3 inches, don't expect the women in attendance to flock to you. Can I just come to a party to watch? Sure, people come to “Lifestyle” parties for a variety of reasons. Some people come out to be a voyeur, while others may come to play with their mate or watch their mate play with others in a safe environment - whatever your flavor is just come to enjoy yourself knowing that everyone present all have at least one thing in common! If there is a donation for the party, it is still the same amount whether you watch or play. Do you allow any illegal substances at your parties? NO... Never... If you appear to be under the influence of drugs or alcohol when you arrive, you will not be allowed entrance into a party. If you are caught with any illegal substances at a party, you will be asked to leave immediately and banned from any further invitations. 7CS does not roll like that, there are plenty of other groups that will allow it, we just aren't one of them. 7CS eCommunity and parties are not in any way threatening, seedy or illegal, no-one will push you into anything, expect anything of you, stare at you, or whisper about you. No, not even the women! Beginners are always welcomed, and treated very gently by the rest of the community. Couples please discuss your Do's and Don'ts prior to attending a party. Talk about it at home, talk about it on the ride to the party, just don't get to a party and get amnesia. You can say hello to people, make eye contact, chat or smile, without it being construed as an invitation for sex. No-one should ever touch you unless you have made it very plain that they are welcome to do so. It does sometimes happen,tentatively (usually through misunderstanding), and the right way to cope with it is simply and politely say "No, thank you". When you do meet someone you think you might like, be frank about what you like or don't like, and demand the same from the person or people you meet. If you don't like them for any reason, just politely turn them down. If YOU get turned down, don't be offended. You will be just what someone, somewhere, is looking for. Having a sour attitude or stalking, are very quick ways to have you escorted from the party and BANNED. This is ALL about people's right to do absolutely what they like, and nothing they don't like. You should not worry AT ALL about your age or appearance. (And for that matter, it is seriously DISRESPECTFUL to comment on anyone else's, even to your friends/partner…Tolerance, remember? How would you feel if it were you on the receiving end of a comment?) For some reason, many female swingers are plus size (possibly because they are more accepting with what they have!) But don't be fooled....at parties, there will be a large variety of women in all sizes. No worry, if you are a size 2 or 22+, you won't be at all out of place or alone. Men love all sizes, forget about what you think! Embrace that body you were blessed with and love yourself! I guarantee you by the end of the night, no one will be able to tell you that you aren't a dymepiece! We are all about building self esteem! Couples are often wrongly pre-judged by people that are not knowledgeable about the lifestyle. Just because a wife wants to play with someone besides her husband, does not imply that the woman is dissatisfied with her man, a slut, or that the man is some kind of wimp. Most women are capable of lots of orgasms, and many husbands/boyfriends are happy to lay on the means for them to achieve it. Just as some men desire other women, whether you believe yours does or not....don't be crazy to think that he doesn't. It doesn't mean that the husband loves his wife any less. It's a very loving thing, and doesn't mean the woman is undervalued by her partner: quite the reverse. It's like letting someone test drive a new car they know they can't afford: you don't mind them trying it, but they sure as hell can't keep it. Would you rather your mate had sex and cheat behind your back with someone who's intentions are to destroy your union, or would you rather you both attend a party…both able to play with others, knowing that once you leave the party, your relationship is still intact and uncompromised? Parties are not the place to look for a someone to be in a relationship with; I would not suggest or recommend it EVER. In general, swingers overall tend to be above average intelligence and are usually very social beings and great conversationalist. You will find most swingers to be very friendly, so make sure that you are on your best behavior and friendly as well. The swinging community is very small and close knit. Once you receive a bad reputation of being unfriendly, unsocial, or labeled a troublemaker….word will spread very fast about you. It is hard to be remembered for being a nice person, but it will only take one time to be recognized as that "Bad Seed" that no one wants at a party they are attending or hosting. Come to parties/gatherings to enjoy the camaraderie knowing that everyone in attendance all have at least one thing in common. We all love sex! There are no flashing signs on our forehead that read "Swingers"…in fact, most people will never have any idea that such things really occur outside of Hollywood and the movie screen. We do not behave badly in public or private, unbelieveably! True, some may never understand how this is acceptable…but then, they are probably very closed minded and don’t know the true meaning of swinging! Please remember, we implement the Vegas Rule, what goes on at a party, is to stay at the party. This is a very important rule! No one is ever to name names or point fingers, show pictures or discuss anything with anyone not in attendance at a party. Just as you will wish to have your information remain confidential, so would others. You never know who is listening or who knows whom? Violating this important rule will have you BANNED, nevermind that you thought no one would find out....word travels very fast! If you are worried about seeing a coworker, neighbor, friend at a party…guess what? They are there for the same reasons as you. Don't be embarrassed, just act as you normally would say if you were seeing them at any other public place. They are probably just as embarrassed as you, don't make it awkward. Say "Hello" and keep it moving, cause now you both have something in common and you never knew! When you leave your first party, you will be so excited and probably asking "When is the next one!". You will wonder why you were nervous to begin with! Being nervous and scared is normal! Very normal! My first party, I was shaking like a leaf, not knowing what to expect and then not knowing anyone...but I was determined! I was tired of hearing the radio DJ talk about the fun he had at a party! I spoke to my husband, and at first he looked at me like I'd lost my mind, called me all kinds of weirdos, then he came back a couple of days later asking questions....and the rest is history! If you have any other questions, that I may not have answered in all of this, feel free to send an email! |
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